Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Bye Bye 2015 HELLO 2016 !

Hello everyone or to myself !

This blog is more or less a yearly affair only.
Beginning of every we always complain ... MAN why cant the year pass faster..
Near the end of the year comes and WOW blink of an eye !
What an Oxy Moron ! 
There are alot of things to be grateful for the year 2015. Although I must say I have NO IDEA WHY i became a cry baby nearing to the end of the year ... Is it my Hormones acting up ? HMM if I cry at little issues NO WORRIES K ! because I have no idea and I feel stupid too !

BACK TO TOPIC !
Grateful for .....

  • MY DOTING HUSBAND 
Very grateful that we have pass another year of marriage more loving less bickers. Although sometimes I must say out of anger I missed out all the loving times... Clever husband creates this video and tell me that if I forget PLEASE LOOK AT THE VIDEO , I am the Doting Husband ! haha Silly BB. As we look forward to another phase in our marriage, House and such. I am entirely grateful everyday waking up beside you my love.

  • Healthy Loving Family 
Family and extended are healthy LOTs of Baby boys at our side. Chaotic hyper and cute boys. May you continue to grow with more wisdom and wits to contribute to the society. Family extremely healthy though we encounter some bumps and disagreements (perhaps increasing in age = decreasing in tolerance) Still love every moment spent. As I mentioned I'm more emotional now. Sometimes I could not help waking up the middle child syndrome in me. Deep Down we all knew that Love is Fair . No matter what I'm still your kid just dont kick me out ! lol

  • Health ! 
Finally GREEN LIGHT to my health ! WOO HOO best gift ever. No more worries about my health. WHICH IS GREAT ! More worries about my expanding waist line .. Some times it works better blaming the husband on doing a FABULOUS job keeping the promise of 养的白白胖胖 . NOW really 白白胖胖. But what ever just embrace my newfound figure, exercise and enjoy food !

  • New Job 
In the midst of looming economy. I had a DARN good luck switching job... not only once but twice! Although leaving AA makes me panic (like leaving my comfort zone and family) Had my downs in the 1st job switch. (but gained a good lunch buddy) and Still exploring my niche in this company. I am glad I made the switch. Hopefully widen my skill sets and knowledge.

I think there are plenty to be grateful for. Friends :) that comfort me when I'm down. Dinners we had together gossiping and gatherings we organized. SURE we sometimes complain about the hassle we have to go through just to gather up. but looking back I think the hassle was worth it. Will you go through the same hassle for me? ;)

SURE there were some surprises along the way. Questions Hatred ETC.
What I do look forward is for people to focus on the good less Hatred (doesnt do us good anyway WHY HATE ) We were born difference therefore our believes.

What my husband and I look forward to in the upcoming 2016

  • OUR NEW HOUSE 
Receive a DARN good news of receiving keys in the 2nd quarter instead of 3rd quarter. Sure it does means $$$$$$ flows out like waterfall. But is an investment of our life together as husband and wife and I cannot wait. With particular of complaining who cleans what in the house etc. Lets build our nest together my love. I WILL TRY not to shoot your ... ideal home decorations down.

  • Weddings Weddings Weddings 
FOR SURE not our wedding. Long pass. 2nd Anniversary coming up WOW but beloved friends upcoming weddings. Karin and Qx & David Wow! I will you guys to the married women club (MWC) with OPEN ARMS New challenges awaits but theres always an outlet to complain for sure!!

  • More Health More Wealth and More Love 
I should be content with what I have dont I ? BUT what's wrong with MORE of these >??? MORE PLEASE !!!

As we usher the New Year.. we look forward to new challenges ahead !  SURE might panic but panicking does not resolve problems. SO does hatred. Note to myself to remain neutral.

Bye 2015 with Love
Leila 

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Leaving AA

Hello All !

While I was looking out at the company bus window today, it was quite surreal to me that tomorrow is my last day at AA . How time flies and I have worked for the company for 3 years ... I recalled the joys and happiness, tears, fears and anger. I must say that AA has evoke all my senses and emotions.

Amidst all the complications I still feel very connected with my fellow colleagues. For the first time when I tendered I felt heart broken. However one must move on with our career and find better grounds. People are so well connected nowadays social media tracks you down on your latest activity. Thou I will dearly miss my colleagues. I hope they will have fond memories of me as much as I remember them fondly ...

I will miss them. and hopefully I will not cry tomorrow.

Sign off
Mrs Leila Li

Our Wedding at 1.3.14 ( 5 tips for a perfect wedding )


Lets start with something that is on a happy note. Sky & Leila Wedding 1.3.14

Planning the wedding was one of the things that I will prefer not to do again with addition of the ceremonial stuff ETC.

The thing about Chinese wedding is that there are SO MANY protocols to abide and Priority is Face.

I feel that sometimes elaborate wedding can lose it’s meaning. Therefore we kept it at a relatively small wedding at 12 table of 12 at Sheraton towers. Budget?  We definitely went over, top reason for over cost is : “ it only happens once in our lives “ so yeah everything starts building up …and Voila  ! you rather not look at the figures anymore!

Okay thou this sounds more like complaining than bliss. I had a few happy moments. So here are TOP 5 advices on holding a Singaporean Chinese wedding.

1.       Weddings are not only a woman’s dream , they are your husband’s dream too
Wedding are women’s fairy tale.. Watching those reality TV … eg. Say yes to the dress, Masters of Reception, etc. majority women makes the decision, including color theme, the dress, what to include what decorations. Men are often just a person who pays and never make decision. I did not realize that until I argued with my fiancé about the theme and colors. I love fairy tales but I never dreamt of a fairy tale wedding because it’s cliché. My fiancé wanted a fairy tale wedding. In the end we compromise with a Victorian theme. So point is it’s not solely your wedding it’s ours.

2.       Sometimes it’s best not to fight/oppose the in laws.. just go with it only if it’s reasonable.

I had several issues with in laws ( sorry I am not bad mouthing them ) in reality, marrying your soulmates means marrying family cultures which may not see eye to eye at times. I must admit that we only give in to reasonable in law’s demands.

3.       Know majority of demographic of guest

Taste can be subjective, thus it is best to accommodate the majority. If your demographic are friend with kids then menu should be more kids friendly. And of course Muslim friends are best grouped in a table to avoid extra cost.  Table and guest arrangement are one of the most troublesome chore you’ll ever face in your wedding because placement tells a lot of your relationship with friends and family. For family feuds let the parents handle the arrangement.

4.       Budget are best kept to your earning ability.

Budget are always busted during weddings mainly because it only happens once in your life.. Ang pow rating are based on the location and relationship with bride and groom. So augmented service like photo booth candy bar, signs decoration etc are  not deciding factor of how much are they giving during the wedding. Heck anyone knows there is a photo booth and event at the wedding. They will most likely give the token of blessing before enjoying all the facilities you cater for them. Pre wedding photos are just momento for you and your partner. Question yourself where will it be after the wedding. Under the bed ? in the cupboard? In one way even thou having pre wedding photos locally, cost can add up to 8-10k so question yourself the importance… is it the location? Or just the symbolism of you and your fiancé’s love ? There are a lot of things you can cut ! just ask yourself how much are you willing to spend ? do not rely on the ang pows too much because you can never profit. There were some who gave 50 SGD as well (I kid you not) budget are best kept between the two of you. Do not go on credit for too many things. Free installment can be taken for granted which result in more spending.

5.       Weddings are never perfect.

Weddings are couples who spent years saving and months planning for the perfect day… BUT why emphasize so much on perfection? After all the main objectives of wedding is to witness your happy union. So why the sour puss over small imperfection happening over your wedding day ? Cheer up and enjoy the moment !




 
Sign Off !

Mrs Leila Li
 

Thursday, May 2, 2013

My New website just for US

Yo !

Our foundation for wedding preparation are fully laid... which includes our wedding theme  ! :D
I am super excited ! I cannot wait to look into the details..

Wedding planning can either be enjoyable or stress. In terms of money and decision making between the both of us it was pretty stressed along with the HDB application.

But I'm glad it is right on track.

So now I decided to dedicate a website solely for wedding planning, and sharing our joys and woes :D

In future it might be useful for anyone who are like us. :D

Sorry dearie, I did not consult you first. BUT it's nothing but SWEET memories my dearie .

Webbie : http://myleila.perfectweddings.sg/

Anyone can read about it thou it just have our first post  !

Sign off !
Leila

Thursday, April 11, 2013

thoughts

life is never smooth sailing if life is smooth there will be no ups and downs that will make every step of your journey memorable.

despite all that I found myself strangely sadden Today. all it takes was a flick of a switch to turn on the negativity.. I should be blessed with what I have but yet .. I can't feel satisfied. all I felt was dosage of disappointment. everything that bothers me that I put aside just pours in.

I'm so lucky to have my dearie.Although I ha've to cry alone in office. but I know all it takes was one call and my dearie will comfort me. perhaps too many people think I'm happy go lucky I use tp cry alone in disappointment. honestly yes I feel a pang of jealousy when people's sadness was put priority of yours . what ? just because I do not show socially or publicly means I do not need to be comfort ? or is it just because I am strong enough to handle myself I don't have to be bothered ?

Afterall Im a girl all should be treated equally isn't it ? whether bf or no bf husband or no husband .. i guess I have to submit to fate .. there's no way anyone will treat me for the girl I am except for my dearie because he knows I'm v vulnerable at times and I need to be treated like a little girl. all I need was a hug. when I was single all I need to do was to whatsapp I need a hug to my poly friends majority and find Yh to grumble lol

without them I guess I wouldn't have gone through the downs that smoothly :) thats what friends are for I wouldn't trade it for anything. and yes dearie even if my friends won't be here all the time , you will be my friend, my lover, my soulmate,my husband to be, My everything :)

thanks for being there for me.
sign off Leila

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Quick update

Hello ! :D

I guess this blog has been neglected too darn long.
and people would have probably ditch the hope of reading anything new lol ! 

BUT HEY I'm still here still with plenty of thoughts and common concern.

Ever since I got engage on my birthday. I guess my life made 360 deg change, Eg: How my bank is with amount that it never reach before.. USUALLY and I'll proudly say... my bank is ZERO ! lol !
now it is not! Now my indulgence is buying bridal magazine, watching say yes to the dress, wathing wedding cakes .. GOD ! I told my dearie, I'm turning BRIDEZILLA !! the wedding is about 11 months away and I'm panicking.

Panicking about photographer
Panicking about my shoes, Accessories
Panicking about my weight !
Panicking about Money and Budget..

BASICALLY Kiasu-ism took over !
I'm pretty lucky my dearie is more laid back in letting me decide.. sometimes he will step in to object.

Yesterday I broke down a little and teared because I was thinking how can all these be resolve.. Whether should I give up the date or certain things like maybe rental of car ... blah blah blah..

I believe everyone's resources are limited. So is ours but there goes the age old arguement that it only happens once in a life time.  SUCH a delimma.

For now I just have to think positive and let it sit in a way that everything will work out.

it's now only 1st quarter of the year and I hope Better change is coming.
A good change. 2014 onwards is most probably the year our life would change.. and I cant wait to share my pride and joy with you guys virtually.

Opps I havent nap..

Gotta Work !
Meeting with my girls later for dinner. Cant wait to gossip and chat with my girls.
They always made my day.. although since I am saving money I dont go out with them anymore.
Not going out does makes me feel neglected and how I miss the feeling. And I'm very lucky that my dearie is a very understanding man who knows I need my daily dose of gossiping and girl talk once in a while.

So lets just wait if I still be able to click with them. Cos sometimes I'm at lost :P
I'M BECOMING OLD... very soon I'll be joining the married woman club talking about houses, husbands and then children..

PLEASE DONT DITCH ME ....

I know im not psychologically balance :P

Sign Off !
Leila  

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

New Year ~ New Feeling ?

Yo ! 

I know it's been ages since I updated. Showed my blog to dearie... I guess guys will never get the need to blog and the purpose.

My purpose of blogging is perhaps not only bitching but also to pen down my feeling and analogy. So as time pass I read on my development as I age.

SO !  it's 2013 !  time really flies ! 2013 will be a year of constant progress, planning. Yet I have a disturbing feeling yesterday. I felt as if I'm stuck in a rut with no where to go. at 26 years having the feeling isnt a good omen.

 
When you are stucked, there are no other way other than to get out of it yourself. Thus another resolution will be 5 sent per week. :)

So lets all pull our socks up !  Shred any kind of negativity and start this year a positive one ! 
I do not care what people may say regarding $.. .$ will come in any way any form.

Even if it's just saving 80 cents buying herbal tea, it's still money ! 

I have to eat my med and perhaps nap.

Sign Off !
Leila !