Just want to keep this blog updated ! Just found out I've been googled ... the oxy moron is I am very VERY expose to the web. Knowing that I've just been googled makes me feel.. uneasy. I know there will be tons of people that will tell me why dont just privatized your stuff. If I did the blog wouldnt be a mode of sharing like what you're reading now right ? ANYWAY, I will try to calm myself and re emphasize that a blog is a blog if you're pestering me based on what I've written on the blog. Is just like getting a "magic wand" after reading harry potter / finding your vampire after watching twilight. PLEASE what is told or written on blogs you can only take it with a pinch of salt. If there is people claiming that blogging is just a mode of seeking attention.. I rather have real attention rather than a VIRTUAL one.
back to topic shall we ?
Recently I've undertaken a new tuition kid in primary 6 foundation. Some how during practicing our science assessment we stumble upon the hardest topic of all, reproduction in humans. Just as I would explain to any kid I tell him about the women menstruation cycle... HOWEVER, he started asking on men's reproduction of sperm. It all started when he state that he did not see the bladder for the women's reproduction system diagram. Then he start asking doesnt women pee ? why dont we have any bladder. So as vague as possible I told him that woman does not utilize the same opening for peeing unlike men.
Thus he made a conclusion : "men pee out sperm"
I know this is not true... but as a tutor I believe in telling the ugly truth. True that he might not need to know and keep his innocence. But I do not want the child to go around making wrong assumptions. Thus I introduce the word "ejaculate". I'm already feeling odd when I tried to explain and it goes like this:
Child: So we pee out the sperms together with the urine ?
Tutor: NO ~ it's not call peeing is ejaculate. sperm will not dispose themselves when you pee.
Child: huh?! then how they come out ?
Tutor (starting to feel awkward but I still try to be a professional educator) : Erm ... Just like women men produces new batch of sperm every month, in fact every day. However you can only store a certain "amount" of sperm. SO ... men tries ways to dispose them.
Child looking clueless.
I tried to explain in an appropriate way but I STILL have no idea how to phrase is as sugar coated as possible.
So I tried to explain: When men are "ready" their hormone changes. Every living things has the urge to continue it's species so does humans. SO .. they turn to different medias in response to the hormonal changes some turn to porn some turn to other stuff like girls. BUT for those who cannot control their instincts get themselves into trouble. THAT is why there are such cases as molest and rapes. So when you grow up as a man, it is your responsibility to decide how you want to steer yourself to be. When you lose control you play with fire. I can only tell you this much now. The rest you have to grow up and understand what I'm talking about.
The child looks a bit less confused ... But I'm already looking guilty. Because I know that every mother will hate me spoiling her child's innocence and every guy will hate me for putting their gender down (not like they can help it). But hey ! I rather the child knows what is going on than obsessing with girls and doing the wrong stuff . But IF I really did something wrong,I apologize sincerely. There is no other way I can think at that moment to put it. I can only vaguely remember once that my classmate that sat beside me during my secondary four is that men got it harder than the women. Now that I read on cases and base on my experience I understand and I sympathize men out there. BUT there are fine line with sympathy and allowing men to take advantages of women. My stand stays firm. Mutual respect for genders. If you respect us females like your equal, perhaps you should keep away your hormones for a second and listen to what we have to say or feel.
It maybe a touchy subject to blog about (at least for us asians) but I just thought that this will be something I will laugh about later or when I face the very same cross road of educating my child in sexual education I may read this.
I know there is always a better way to sugar coat sexual education. my parent's way ? is just to give us a book to read and yes I still have it! it might be twenty plus year old book! lol !
you may agree or disagree with my method. but in parenting there is no such thing as the RIGHT method. yes I may not be a parent yet but I do not need to be a parent to know facts such as this. In the past I stumble upon the parenting book my parents kept. I read it and from that moment on it dawn on me that as much as I want to prove my point to my parents they are trying SO hard just to teach me what they have learn. Knowing how stubborn my parents is I know it takes a great deal to turn to books for answer. I feel a pang of guilt and gratefulness.
My parents may not be the greatest parents in the world but knowing that they tried as hard as they can to make our lives work out better than their's , THEY ARE already THE GREATEST PARENT ON EARTH.
I think til now my parents have no clue on what I knew about them haha OPPS ! but love need not be express by merely words. I believe action still speaks louder than words SO DOES sincerity.
Sign off !